You’d think he was fightin’ mad.

After only seven months on the job, he and (his entirestaff) were fired this week.

He lost what has sometimes been called the best job in theworld.

And he’s being replaced by the very person who had the joboriginally.

But Conan O’Brian spoke of his job loss at NBC with hisusual flair and sense of humor.

“Tonight I am allowed to say whatever I want. No, I reallyam,” he said, prefacing what the audience expected to be an outpour of sarcasmand vitriol. But, no, he diplomatically praised NBC and thanked the company forall that they did for him for the past twenty years.

That, my friends, is how you do it.…with kindness,sincerity, and discretion.   If you loseyour job or suffer the loss of an important client, even if you feel it’sunfair, unwarranted and plain wrong, it makes sense to filter your words so yousay the right thing. 

Burning your bridge in 2010 means you’ll have no where to goshould opportunities ever come your way.

 Here are tips to helpyou filter what you’re thinking and make smart choices of what to say:

1. Make a list of everything that’s bothering you – what makes you angry, frustrated, and even vindictive.
2. Take full responsibility for each of these. How did I contribute to this problem?
3. What issues are worth sharing with my boss?
4. By sharing this with your boss, will any of this help you keep your job or move you in a direction where you can expect a positive referral?
5. If there is no real rhyme or reason to share (it won’t help your future), say nothing.
6. And in that case, thank your power people at your work for everything they’ve done. Show appreciation. Keep both feet in the business until the day you leave. And feel proud that if you left the bridge in tact, you can depend on your boss for a positive referral.

Conan’s farewell speech came probably after many days ofheated negotiation. But we didn’t feel any of that when he spoke the othernight because he showed restraint as well as humility.

 Once the angersubsides and logic kicks in, you can make much smarter decisions that may provevaluable some day in helping further your career.  Please contact us for a free report and if you would like help with communication at work or home.

This blog was written by Dr. Gary Seigel  www.theemailwizard.com

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